Today you are turning eighteen, you’re about to have the funnest years of your life, but they will also sometimes be the loneliest and the most tumultuous. To help you deal with some of the kind of things I think you’ll go through, I’d like to impart some of the life lessons I’ve learnt, and am still learning, from the last six years of adulthood.
- Everything happens for a reason, not in a “fate” kind of way, but you will make the best out of every situation. If your grades aren’t what you were expecting and you don’t end up in the university you’d set your hopes on, maybe thats because you needed to meet certain people or experience something or discover a new opportunity. If you waste 3 years in an unhealthy relationship, maybe this was to teach you what you’re not looking for when you do settle down.
- Don’t make any decisions or change any plans based on a boy
The chances are, you probably won’t marry him. I’m talking something as minor as waiting to take your makeup off because you’re not sure whether this boys going to call you or not, or as major as not going to a certain university because you want to be near your boyfriend.
- Nothing good ever happens after 3am. Just go to sleep.
- It’s ok to say no. You are naturally caring and lovely to everyone but don’t let people take advantage of this quality. I’ve only just got my head around saying no and being more assertive. Boys will try to manipulate you, recognise the signs and be strong. Don’t fall for their lies, no they will not hurt themselves if you leave them, no you don’t need to spend an hour every day on the phone to them explaining why you broke up and no you don’t need to feel guilty if you don’t fancy them.
- Never underestimate the healing powers of a cup of tea in your favourite mug. You’re going to go through some pretty shitty times, and you’re going to be lonely and poor sometimes and it will feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders and you’re so far away from home. A comforting cup of tea in your favourite mug will transport you to the places you would rather be.
- Travel. Travel travel travel. Do it while you can, before you are tied to a job or a person.
- Sleeping on a decision is always the right thing to do. Nothing ever feels as bad in the morning as it does the night before.
- Everyone loves to talk about themselves.
- Trust your instincts. If something feels dangerous, or you get a funny feeling about someone, trust yourself, you’re picking up subconscious cues – listen to them!
- You haven’t reached your peak yet. Yes you have become an adult today, but you’re not a grown up yet, neither am I. You’re going to keep on changing and growing for years and years, probably forever, I still haven’t got there yet. The biggest difference I’ve noticed in myself since I was 18 is how much more confident I am now.
- It’s ok if you don’t know what you want to be when you grow up yet, you’re still learning about yourself and there are still qualities and skills that you haven’t discovered in yourself yet.
- Losing your virginity is not as big a deal as you think it will be, nor will you feel any different when it’s over.
- When something bad happens, put it in perspective by asking yourself, will this matter in 5 years. This is one of the best things I have ever heard, because the truth of the matter is: you will make mistakes, but nothing you will do will still matter in 5 years, most of the time, it won’t even matter in a week.